Regrets.

I have recently acquired a lethal Being Erica addiction that meant I was awake until 4am last night watching it. If you've never seen it, it's about a woman that writes down all the regrets in her life and she goes back and makes them right. It sounds very boring and cliché but it's the complete opposite. Every time she changes it, she learns something new for the future.

It got me to thinking that we should never have regrets. Regrets are only produced because we have obtained the benefit of hindsight. Because we know what happened because of our decision, we feel that we should have done things differently. The thing is: it's gone. You made a decision and the one thing that we must always remember is that we made that decision for a reason. Whether or not it was right in the long term, you decided that it was right at the time. What we can obtain from past mistakes is a knowledge for the future: if that situation arises again, you have a better idea of what to do and can make an overall better decision for the future.
We can't change the past. But we have complete control over our present. So forget what happened and concentrate on now and try to correct any wrong mistakes. Our present can always correct our past and completely change our future. So don't regret anything. Learn from what you have done because, without knowing what happened afterwards, you never would have done it differently even if you could go back now.

After months of regretting things, I realised that I wouldn't change a thing. Because it made me a stronger and better person and without it, I would have gone on to make more mistakes anyway.





first positive post in ages. aha.